Shifts focus away from the griever’s reality
✅ What to say instead:
“I know how much you loved them.”
“Tell me about them—I’d love to hear your favorite memory.”
“It’s okay to just miss them. I’m here.”
❌ 4. “Let me know if you need anything.”
Why it hurts:
Puts the burden on the grieving person to ask for help (when they’re overwhelmed)
Often feels like a polite platitude, not a real offer
Most people won’t reach out—even when they’re drowning
✅ What to say instead:
“I’m bringing dinner Tuesday—chicken curry or pasta?”
